Protecting yourself from the dysfunction and ill intention of a predator is more than surface level training. We can’t fool ourselves into thinking that mace, guns, and karate are the answer to avoiding victimization. Most tools people accept as protections are reactionary.
SafeU is encouraging proactive tools. Statistics show that 85 to 90% of women and children are victimized by someone familiar to them, NOT by strangers. Learning to identify and repel this type of predator is the best defense. SafeU teaches the tools to do exactly that.
The type of predator who targets women and children looks for insecurities, vulnerabilities, and the lack of confidence, among other things. This means at some level the predator will have interaction and communication with a potential victim.
During the interaction and communication a predator is deciding whether you are a good victim, or too much to handle. The goal of SafeU is to help everyone become “too much to handle.” The following tips are a part of what it takes to become predator proof.
Our internal dialogue (what we say inside our head) matters. What we say and think inside will project out. If you feel insecure or lack confidence, you will project exactly that. Try some new dialogue that not only helps you to become predator proof, but will also make you feel better and stronger.
- I am valuable.
- I am confident, strong, and stable.
- It’s ok to smile and be happy.
- I am aware and alert.
- I do not have to accommodate everyone.
- I am brave.
- I will not tolerate unwanted invasions.
- I can’t please everyone all the time, and that is ok.
Trying some of this internal work may feel unnatural, or the dialogue being used may not fit how you really feel, but if you truly want to become predator proof it is worth the conditioning.
Monday, January 26, 2009
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